Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviour which is used is used to gain or maintain power and control over a partner, ex-partner or family member.
Anyone can experience domestic abuse regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion, income, education or gender. Domestic abuse doesn’t always include violence and other forms of abuse can be just as damaging.
Abuse can be:
Abuse includes any behaviours that frighten, intimidate, terrorise, manipulate, control, hurt, humiliate, blame, or withhold medical care from someone.
Domestic abuse in any form is a criminal offence.
Some warning signs of domestic abuse
Does your partner/ ex-partner/ carer/ family member…
- Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
- Put down your accomplishments?
- Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
- Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
- Tell you that you are nothing without them?
- Treat you roughly—grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
- Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
- Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
- Blame you for how they feel or act?
- Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
- Make you feel like there is “no way out” of the relationship?
- Prevent you from doing things you want – like spending time with friends or family?
- Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?
- Sometimes feel scared of how they may behave?
- Constantly make excuses to other people for their behaviour?
- Believe that you can help them change if only you changed something about yourself?
- Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make them angry?
- Always do what they want you to do instead of what you want?
- Stay with them because you are afraid of what they would do if you left?
If any of these things are happening in your relationship, talk to someone. Without help, the abuse will continue. You can speak to anyone here at THT, we’ll provide help to keep you safe and will work with partners to get all the support you need in place. You can get in touch by calling 0300 777 7777.
Getting emergency support
If you are in immediate danger, you should call 999. If it’s not safe for you to speak, press 55 on your telephone keypad which will alert the operator to the fact you need emergency assistance. They will trace your call and send help.
If your situation is not an emergency, you can contact the Police by calling 101 or by attending a local Police Station.
Domestic abuse is a criminal offence and the police can arrest, caution or charge the perpetrator. Most police stations have Domestic Violence Units with specially trained officers to deal with domestic abuse. Make sure you ask for your crime reference number, which you may need to contact other agencies for help and support.
If you’re a neighbour and are worried about a violent situation in your community, please call 999.
Trafford Domestic Abuse Service (TDAS)
Trafford Domestic Abuse Service will support you through the whole process of dealing with domestic abuse including, finding you a safe place to live, providing a first point of contact, advocating and supporting you through the criminal and civil justice systems, putting plans in place to keep you and your children safe and providing support to help you get back to being you. Call 0161 872 7368 or visit www.tdas.org.uk/
Other organisations that can offer support
Call 0808 2000 247
Call 0808 2000 247
The Men's Advice Line
Call 0808 801 0327
National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Call 0808 2000 247
0808 802 9999
Support we offer
We can offer a wide range of practical advice on dealing with essential money, benefit or debt matters, including:
- Helping you to access the correct benefits and appeal decisions if benefits have been refused
- Help you manage all your debts, not just rent, which can include solutions to clearing most of your debts where eligible
- Helping with budgeting and grant applications for items such as household items
- Pointing you in the right direction for further support
If you're struggling or need help and advice, you can book an appointment by calling 0300 777 7777 or email us.